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Today, my husband and I are celebrating our ninth wedding anniversary! In honor of that milestone, I’m sharing nine pearls of wisdom gained over the years, many earned the hard way. As special as friends and extended family can be, the truth is that they come and go, and the person I can truly count on is [...]

Every once in a while, something tests my sense of self and forces me to confront my identity as other people must see it. This week, it was a contractor---someone we’ve been working with for weeks. He’s always been reasonably polite to my face, but sometimes I get the feeling that he doesn’t really take [...]


A Week Without the Kids

I just did something I never thought I would do until many, many years from now. I actually left my kids in someone else's care. For a Whole Week. I had to go on a business trip with my husband, and spouses were strongly encouraged to attend. Last year, when we received the invitation, when [...]

First of all, a BIG thank you to everyone who shared so openly about their marriage. This experience just confirmed what I've suspected since comments started rolling in on my first post about marriage after Baby J was born: we're all struggling with something, and we want to talk about it, even if it's not an [...]

Ask any respectable adult, and he or she will tell you the things you're not supposed to discuss in polite conversation: Money Politics Religion and...Sex But why is this last subject the one that always seems to come up when my girlfriends and I sneak out together? It's not like we're swapping secrets. I guess maybe [...]

This afternoon, we took my son to get a haircut. And as my son sat down in the chair, an elderly man wearing a "retired navy" ball cap started talking to us. He and my husband briefly traded military stories. After my son was finished, my husband sat down for his turn, so I took [...]

Back in May, when Baby J was just six weeks old, I wrote an honest post about my marriage titled “What No One Wants to Admit About Their Marriage After a Baby”: separate bedrooms, no time for each other, and that feeling of being roommates more than man and wife. Every so often, a new [...]

A few weeks ago, I went to a friend's home for a themed girls night. The theme? Making advent calendars for our husbands. We gathered around her craft table and cut out Christmas paper, adorning each one with numbers, and then discussing the ideas that would mark each day. As I was creating my cards, [...]

As I write this, it's 5:00 a.m. I'm functioning on 3.5 hours of sleep and have been up for two hours. I want nothing more than to curl up in my bed and drift back to sleep---sleep that would come all too easily, except for the crying baby in the background. Let the sleep training [...]

The day my husband and I got back from our honeymoon, my husband's best friend was waiting for us at our front door. He'd been living at our house since a few weeks before our wedding. He was having some trouble with his current living situation and needed a place to stay for a few [...]